Women's emotional implications before starting krav maga training.
A Women Guide to Krav Maga (Part 1)
There are some things that get in the way of you taking that first step to
start Womens self defense classes… it can be intimidating. You don’t know what
to expect, how you’ll be treated, what is required of you, if you can keep up,
if you’ll be treated well in training. I’m here to share my experiences to
hopefully help you get take that step to start. (please note: this is part one
to this mini-guide for women and Krav Maga training. Subscribe to this blog, or
like us on facebook to get updates on future parts. So, who am I to be writing
this blog post?
My name is Dani. I’ve been training in Krav Maga for 5 years and
I have been trained as an instructor, I am also co-founder of Krav Maga
Systems. I’ve been through a lot of ups and downs as a result of my training,
but just like a musical symphony, each note has been an essential part to one
of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. Let’s be honest you wouldn’t
normally expect something like self-defense training to have the potential to
dramatically change your life – yet so many that go through the process of
training become more complete versions of themselves. I went from being an
extremely introverted, timid girl to someone who knows who they are, what they
want and is not willing to give up or compromise that for anything. I’m willing
to not take on other people’s issues/insecurities as my problem, I look out for
myself more than ever before – and in every way. Krav Maga training is one of
those things that teaches you to either ‘sink or swim’. You can’t afford to
give up when things feel impossible, because if you do, your life could be on
the line (sounds dramatic, but it could be the reality). Training makes you
face situations where you feel powerless like; being choked out, getting
carried away, thrown to the ground, threatened with a knife or gun, being
confronted by verbally aggressive individuals. You don’t realise the effect it
has on you ’till you experience what you are required to do to get yourself out
of there (emphasis on ‘yourself’ because it is likely going to be just you to
rely on). There’s an emotional turbulence that comes with training in these
situations (which may or may not be immediate). It’s not a combat-sport, where
you learn a physical skill and are told you can use it for self defence. In
training, you actually are put into those situations. You practice facing the
mental aspects as well as the physical. The emotional turbulence is the big
lesson… Its your opportunity to evolve and grow. It’s order through chaos, so
to speak. As women we often feel like our emotions are our weakness, like they
make us look idiotic or irrational, but once you allow yourself to really feel
and move through it all you will know just what sort of power you have. Once
you move past it you get a focus that helps you stay relatively level headed
under highly-stressful situations. You eliminate your in-built reaction to
freeze up, to cower inward. You learn to control that reaction to lash out too
(not all of us freeze or run at the sign of a stressful experience). You learn
to channel it down a path that puts you in control. On a bigger level you
develop a drive and a determination that makes you self-resilient, and
comfortable with who you are.
So, what emotions/situations will you face during self defense for adults?
Fear: “I don’t wanna look like a fool. I don’t want to get
hurt.” “I don’t want to hurt anyone.”
Doubt: “Will I really be able to do this?”
Insecurity: “I don’t want to hold guys back from training
properly.” “Guys treat me differently as a training partner.”
Frustration: “I should be able to do this, but I can’t.” “Why do
guys talk down to me.”
Anger: “Why did I let myself get hit.” “Why did I let myself get
caught in that attack?” “Why didn’t I react like I should have?”
Pride: “I’m so stoked I got through that drill” “I did
everything right this time”
Confidence: “I know I can handle this” “I know I’ll be able to
make better choices”
When something makes you feel emotional – go within and ask
“what is this really about? Can I do something to change it?” It could be as
simple as speaking up and telling your training partner to ‘attack you better’
or ‘hold back on the pressure’. Use the training floor to practice everything
from being assertive, confident, strong-willed, capable (the list goes on and
on). Once you start showing yourself that you ‘can’, the possibilities are
endless. Understand, these are all going to be experienced at some point –
maybe not in this order. Likely, you will jump from point to point. You might
even go through most of these stages in the space of an hour session. All it
takes it to prove to yourself once, that you can do it. You can only gain from
learning these skills that should be as important as learning how to read and
write. Be brave and take that first step, have faith in yourself and the
process of learning. What’s your experience with training been like? Are you
thinking of starting training and facing some of these emotional/mental blocks?
Comment below 🙂
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